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CHILD SUPPORT MEANS MORE THAN MONETARY

We sometimes get the phrase "Child Support" mixed up because of how society has painted the picture. The government system has made many believe that supporting a child should be based on a controlled monetary system. Let me explain my argument. 

Each year men and women are imprisoned because of the lack of monetary support based on legal judgment. They find themselves fighting court orders because they fail to pay their court obligations. 

The Social Service system requires custodial parents who may need public assistance to placing the non-custodial parent up for documented child support. 

Not saying that this is all a bad thing, but the after affects can become ridiculous. Some men or women may not be able to physically pay the asked obligation. 

I feel that it's unfair to the non-custodial parent who may be really putting forth effort. Why can't spending time with the children count for a form of child support. This question isn't even an option within the evaluation for the custodial parent to gain assistance. 

To the men and women who face this issue with a system that ends in a bias judgment, I extend my deepest sympathy. I can relate to the lose of your drivers license, job placement, credit issues, and etc. The things that men and women have to experience when they can't offer monetary.

 Look deeper into the responsibility of parenthood. As long as a parent can provide quality time with their children I think the they should be honored and the custodial parent should be given assistance. I'm sure this blog post will create a lot of comments in the discussion block below. 

What do you think? 

BECOMING A ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR CHILDREN

  This may open up a can of worms, but I hope my readers will be open minded to what I am about to express. I am a former baby daddy in transition of becoming a real father. Okay, let me explain to you a little more in depth of what I am saying. Any man can lay and become a baby daddy, but it takes a real man to transition into becoming a father. Becoming a father takes time and dedication. It brings the means of being responsible and gaining a positive parenthood trait about ourselves.

 Often times we as men find ourselves doing what I call playing the field. We become ladies men and some of us even become womanizers without taking notice to what we are doing to these potential mothers and women in general. Well since this is more of a personal blog for me, hopefully you the reader can find some sort of clarity within yourself.  

  I was a young man who loved to party and run the streets. I cared more for what others thought about me than I even thought about myself. I wasn’t responsible at all and even though it looked like I had it all together honestly I was an accident waiting to happen. A real woman’s nightmare walking. Don’t get me wrong my intentions were innocent, but I was so stuck on myself I didn’t even realize what I was doing as a young man. Being in this state I found myself running a lot of woman. I guess you can say I was little promiscuous. Well let me be honest, at that time I was a lot promiscuous. I had many sexual partners because I just couldn’t find that space that kept me content. I know your saying, what does this have to do with the topic. Well sit tight because it will all merge a little further into this story.

  At the age of 18 I would have been a baby daddy, but some complications happened that I don’t care to share at the moment. But, at that time I knew my girlfriend and I wasn’t ready to become parents. So fast forward a little in my life, I had my first born at the age of 20. By now I was somewhat ready and excited to becoming a father for the first time. I stayed in contact with the mother of my child, I went to visit her often just to check to see if she needed anything for our child. I did everything I could to be a good father. But later in to life something took a turn in my mindset. Let me explain…

  I begin to gravitate away from fatherhood and gravitate towards what I loved over everything. I loved the streets and what it had to offer me. The choices were broad and I could do whatever I wanted. Somewhere selfishness kicked all the way in and I later begin to pay for it. I found myself seeing my child less from where I began getting myself into trouble making matters even worse.

  Let me bring this home for you the reader or I will have you here reading all day. I allowed other unnecessary things to pull me away from the most important things in my life. I chose other things over my children. Yes, I have mentioned children because this cycle continued for years and within those years I conceived other children who also suffered my stupidity and irresponsibility. As many men today we put other things before our own God given creation. We stay selfish and some of us can’t come out of that mindset. I know for some it’s difficult to overcome. But if you truly transfer your energy into wanting better for your children first you will work hard at leaving them your legacy. Some people won’t understand what you’re doing because you will appear to move out of your comfort zone. 

  Stay focused and be the best father you possibly can be. Fatherhood means more than providing money, so becoming a role model should be the only way you live around them. I hope this may help someone else become the father who will transition from being the typical baby daddy.

  Men I realize that we aren't perfect. We will make mistakes and we have to let our children know this. Show them that they're special and that they have great gifts to offer this world. We should want the best for our own. Wanting the best for them means we have to give them a good outlook on life. Teach your children the importance of character and how to carry themselves within today's society. I am also guilty of this, I had to find who I was first. Since I've found me, now it's time to go back and instill positive energy within my children. Let's take some of the load off the mothers by letting the mother be the woman. A woman shouldn't have to struggle with two personalities.

Thank you for reading this article, hopefully you can take away something positive. Please leave comments below and let’s start a discussion. 

THE BEAUTY OF BALTIMORE THE MEDIA ISN'T SHOWING #BMORENOTLESS #ILOVEBALTIMORE

We have heard the many forms of negative news that has happened within the City of Baltimore, MD. All sorts of stories have been shared among the viewers and listeners. Images have been taken in the manner of creating Baltimore as a savage place to be. No one is shining light on the positive that's taking place during this time of media propaganda. If a story is to be shared about anything, I feel the story should be full and complete. Share both sides of the story and gain a greater understanding. Below is a movement that some concerned residents and citizens have formed together to bring a stop to the violence taking place. Please watch this and embrace the sincerity that is behind it.

 

The Stokey Project brought the community together at Druid Hill Park for a block party to empower the people and organize peaceful protesting. There was music, open mic and free food through out the event. A special thank you goes to McDonald's for donating food and special thank you to the Baltimore community for donating other materials needed for a successful and peaceful gathering.

You have organizations behind it that are really concerned to seeing Baltimore citizens better themselves. Let's come together and get in where we fit in to lend a helping hand if it's nothing but just spreading the word of peace. Churches of all religions conduct daily prayer for the city as well as those who live within it. I commend organizations like "The Stokey Project" and "The Emory Jones Foundation" for being leaders to help gather the city together. Let us come together as one and fight for what's right. Please leave comments below and share this positive message.


For more information on how you can become involved please contact "The Stokey Project" via email c.stokey10@gmail.com or visit http://www.thestokeyproject.com

HOW LONG WILL YOU CARRY YOUR VISION

I'd like to begin by first saying your a winner. It always feels good for someone to acknowledge the good job your doing. I may not know you the reader on a personal level, but I do know the spirit of my readers in which take a liking for my articles written. I sat and thought about this for a while and finally decided to release this piece. This is a article especially directed for you my readers.

Many of you who I've had the privilege in speaking with shared with me why you like my articles. You have expressed that many of my writings birth hope and life back into the atmosphere. Some of you even said to me that your thinking has been changed in a more positive way. Well this will be one of those empowering pieces that will leave your mindset stuck on ten. So here it is...

Have you ever been told you wouldn't amount to nothing? Has your support team ever left you to support yourself? How about this, have you ever shared a vision with someone and they told you that you weren't capable of making it happen because it appeared to them you didn't have the means to getting it done? These aren't even half of what you'll hear when your a born winner. Winners prepare for the race. Winners know that there will be some people who will run with you, and then there will be others who will be left behind. Some people are only good for the starting of the race with you. There's nothing wrong with that, let me tell you why.

These type of individuals have the right intentions to running the race with you, but mentally they haven't prepared themselves yet. They have too many other things going on at once and can't focus long enough to seeing things manifest to the finish. So know that it's not a intentional sabotage, it's a unintentional commitment. You as the born winner have to prepare yourself for running this race of life on your own if needed. Obstacles always will present themselves before us unexpectedly and we have to be prepared. We have to prepare ourselves for life's setbacks, disappointments, and general ups and downs. How can I do that you may ask yourself, well here's a few things to start your practice.

First you have to identify where you stand as the individual; and then decide if you need to change some things as it stands in your life. If you see room for change, now is the best time to act on what it is you need to rearrange about your life. Is the problem listening to others when they say you can't do things? Are you allowing people to stagnate you from moving forward? Are you letting people belittle your confidence and make you feel unattractive at what you do? What about those people who make you feel less qualified about yourself because of your appearance or level of professionalism because of your lack of education. Well listen to this...

It didn't mattered to Oprah Winfrey, Michael Dell, Bill Gates, Sean "Diddy" Combs, Mark Zuckerberg, Evan Williams, Richard Branson, or Ray Kroc just to name a few. What people thought or said about these individuals on a personal level didn't break these successors focus. They're regular people like you and I. The difference is they separated themselves by not giving up and abiding to the negative opinions of others. They went after what they felt passionate about. They didn't allow fear or any other distraction stand in their way of success. They took the chance at failing and succeeding at the same time. 

Many us fail because we won't take the chance to see if we'll make it at something or not. We finish before we start. This is a wake up article for my readers. Get back on the horse of life and ride it out. Don't let disappointed moments shut down your appointed time. Often times we want to rush success just to get premature results. Take your time and reevaluate your core purpose. Success starts from the inside while giving birth is totally up to you. How long will you carry your vision?

Author: Armah O Dashiell

THE FEAR OF SUCCESS

Author: Armah O Dashiell

As we exercise our right to dream, we’re also obligated to willfully give it our best shot to becoming successful. Becoming successful is our own outlook of overcoming certain things within our life that may seem a little challenging. Anything worth being proud of does not come easy. It makes us as human beings feel good when we can accomplish something in which we give it everything. It’s the process that makes us the strongest. Let me give you a good example.

Richard and Maurice McDonald had a vision of speedy customer service in the restaurant business. They came up with a great business model for “McDonalds Bar B Q” and executed it the best way they knew how. They took notice to what was selling the best and they remodeled their business plans a bit by refocusing on certain key items. For a while everything was going well for them, but they begin to get comfortable with their financial success and didn’t realize they had placed a lid on their potential earnings. They forgot that the original vision was so much bigger than they had reached at the time of their stagnation point in which we also find ourselves doing at times. They reached a place to where they had to make a choice to either stay in their comfort zone financially or recreate the wheel a little to exceed where they currently found themselves. After giving thought they made the choice to sell the business to a gentleman by the name of Ray Kroc in 1955 under certain stipulations.

Ray Kroc was the seller of Multimixer Milkshake Machines in which the McDonald brothers used themselves. Ray was introduced to the McDonald brothers in 1954 by his friend named Charles Lewis who made the life changing suggestion that Ray checkout the restaurants potential. Ray met with the McDonald brothers and suggested to them that they should franchise their business because he seen a greater potential for a financial growth. The McDonald brothers took Ray up on his suggestions and the rest is history. Now we all across America love to support Richard, Maurice and Ray’s vision over 50 years later. Who doesn’t love the McDonalds Corporation?

I used this story as an example because as Richard and Maurice had a vision, so does many of you the readers of this article. What stops many of us from pursuing these visions come from our inner emotions such as the fear of failure, fear of being criticized by others, and the fear of being disconnected from those people in which we hold close to the heart. These are often what I call unnecessary road blocks. We find ourselves placing boundaries in our way voluntarily. So how can we bring forth the change to the involuntary fears that many of us face today? Let me give you a few ideas.

When you find yourself up against fear it can be really overwhelming at first. That’s why you have to know strategies of how to embrace these fears while using them for your good and not allowing them to overpower you for the worse. The first step is normally the hardest, but you have to admit to self that you let your fears get the best of you. Secondly, you have to be determined that you no longer will allow fear to stand in the way of getting things done. Lastly, you have to just take the risk of pursuing what it is you believe in while remaining positive no matter what the result may turn out to be. I encourage you the reader to pursue your dreams and let nothing stand in your way. Go for bettering yourself over becoming stagnated from what you think others may think of your dream. You'll never know your ending unless you attempt to begin. 

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Bianca Moore is an author that writes contemporary fiction. She was born and raised in Cambridge, Maryland, also known as “Groove City.” She graduated from Cambridge South-Dorchester High School, completed her undergraduate studies at Strayer University in Washington, DC, and graduate studies at Central Michigan University. She is employed by the Department of Defense as a Cyber Security Engineer and finds writing to be her favorite pass time.  Writing was just something that always came easy for her, even at a very young age.

While attending Cambridge South-Dorchester High School, she enjoyed Mrs. Judith Howell's English class.  This is where her writing really started to blossom.  She started writing poems, songs and short stories and eventually wrote a book that was never published.  Years later, she began to write the now published novel Is He All That? A novel about a young professional African American woman who takes the reader on a journey of her dating adventures.

The book outlines the dating struggles people face when trying to find a mate. Bianca Moore was determined to go through with the project this time and it's a good thing she did.  The book has received great reviews on Amazon.  She also performs spoken word at numerous venues in the Washington, DC area.

She is presently hard at work on her second novel as well as a poetry book which consists of a collection of poems she has written over the years. She enjoys physical fitness, traveling and working with children. She lives in Waldorf, Maryland with her son Xeondre’.