BECOMING A ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR CHILDREN

  This may open up a can of worms, but I hope my readers will be open minded to what I am about to express. I am a former baby daddy in transition of becoming a real father. Okay, let me explain to you a little more in depth of what I am saying. Any man can lay and become a baby daddy, but it takes a real man to transition into becoming a father. Becoming a father takes time and dedication. It brings the means of being responsible and gaining a positive parenthood trait about ourselves.

 Often times we as men find ourselves doing what I call playing the field. We become ladies men and some of us even become womanizers without taking notice to what we are doing to these potential mothers and women in general. Well since this is more of a personal blog for me, hopefully you the reader can find some sort of clarity within yourself.  

  I was a young man who loved to party and run the streets. I cared more for what others thought about me than I even thought about myself. I wasn’t responsible at all and even though it looked like I had it all together honestly I was an accident waiting to happen. A real woman’s nightmare walking. Don’t get me wrong my intentions were innocent, but I was so stuck on myself I didn’t even realize what I was doing as a young man. Being in this state I found myself running a lot of woman. I guess you can say I was little promiscuous. Well let me be honest, at that time I was a lot promiscuous. I had many sexual partners because I just couldn’t find that space that kept me content. I know your saying, what does this have to do with the topic. Well sit tight because it will all merge a little further into this story.

  At the age of 18 I would have been a baby daddy, but some complications happened that I don’t care to share at the moment. But, at that time I knew my girlfriend and I wasn’t ready to become parents. So fast forward a little in my life, I had my first born at the age of 20. By now I was somewhat ready and excited to becoming a father for the first time. I stayed in contact with the mother of my child, I went to visit her often just to check to see if she needed anything for our child. I did everything I could to be a good father. But later in to life something took a turn in my mindset. Let me explain…

  I begin to gravitate away from fatherhood and gravitate towards what I loved over everything. I loved the streets and what it had to offer me. The choices were broad and I could do whatever I wanted. Somewhere selfishness kicked all the way in and I later begin to pay for it. I found myself seeing my child less from where I began getting myself into trouble making matters even worse.

  Let me bring this home for you the reader or I will have you here reading all day. I allowed other unnecessary things to pull me away from the most important things in my life. I chose other things over my children. Yes, I have mentioned children because this cycle continued for years and within those years I conceived other children who also suffered my stupidity and irresponsibility. As many men today we put other things before our own God given creation. We stay selfish and some of us can’t come out of that mindset. I know for some it’s difficult to overcome. But if you truly transfer your energy into wanting better for your children first you will work hard at leaving them your legacy. Some people won’t understand what you’re doing because you will appear to move out of your comfort zone. 

  Stay focused and be the best father you possibly can be. Fatherhood means more than providing money, so becoming a role model should be the only way you live around them. I hope this may help someone else become the father who will transition from being the typical baby daddy.

  Men I realize that we aren't perfect. We will make mistakes and we have to let our children know this. Show them that they're special and that they have great gifts to offer this world. We should want the best for our own. Wanting the best for them means we have to give them a good outlook on life. Teach your children the importance of character and how to carry themselves within today's society. I am also guilty of this, I had to find who I was first. Since I've found me, now it's time to go back and instill positive energy within my children. Let's take some of the load off the mothers by letting the mother be the woman. A woman shouldn't have to struggle with two personalities.

Thank you for reading this article, hopefully you can take away something positive. Please leave comments below and let’s start a discussion.